How To Save My Marriage (with free printable download!)
What if the missing piece in how to save your marriage was something as easy as taking time to talk with someone? If I was looking for how to save my marriage, simply talking with someone sounds pretty easy to me!
I’m not talking about just a therapist, (though I will advocate for a sound biblical Christian counselor 100%, and I think everyone should see one!) But someone who knows you and your spouse more intimately than anyone ever will?
Someone who even on your best (and worst) days, knows you better than you know yourself.
What if the thing missing in your marriage wasn’t a thing, but a Person?
When we ask ourselves in the seasons of drought, “How can I save my marriage” seldom do we actually have faith in the power WE have in Christ to save our marriage through prayer.
Prayer not only softens our heart towards our spouse, but it brings us to a place of humility where we can truly hear God’s heart not just for marriage as a whole, but for OUR marriage.
The bible says we must not be ignorant of the enemy’s schemes (2 Corinthians 2:11), but we are to be on guard. Marriage is one of the first things the enemy attacks because it was set apart to be a reflection of Christ to a world that desperately needs him.
The enemy knows that if he can attack a person with just one seed of doubt, one thought, one glimpse, then he can bring division into a marriage. If he can bring division into a marriage, he can bring division into a family. If he can bring division into the family, he can bring division into the church. If he brings division into a church, a community breaks down, and when a community begins to break down, then a nation crumbles…a nation that desperately NEEDS JESUS!
In the day-to-day-life, we have so many things demanding our attention. We are distracted people who barely have time to look at our spouse, let alone take time to pray for them or our marriage. But, the truth is, we are responsible to pray for the covenant of our marriage! Even in times when we feel overwhelmed, unnoticed, and often ashamed as we walk through struggles when marriage is hard (because let’s face it, marriage is hard!) There will be seasons of great fruit, there will be seasons of great drought, and there will be seasons in the middle (Ecclesiastes 3:1-8). But what do I do in the seasons where I don’t know how to save my marriage?
I encourage you to use the following prayer prompts as a starting point. In seasons when our marriage has felt like it was falling apart and I’ve wondered how to save my marriage, as well as in seasons of great unity and vision, these prayer prompts have helped us stay spiritually focused. More so, they’ve helped us stay on guard against the division that the enemy continually attacks us with as we pursue a marriage that is set apart from the world; a marriage that reflects Christ!
I trust these prayer prompts will give you a deep desire to begin or continue praying for your spouse again, or to truly intercede for your marriage (maybe for the first time).
These 30 prayer prompts are quick, easy, printable, and a gentle reminder for you to keep praying, without distraction. Allow these to guide you towards intimate fellowship with God, and intercession for your spouse!
Our intention is that you will be able to focus on one each day of the month!
For the Husband:
For the Wife:
For You Both as a Couple
So friend, let me remind you today.
YOUR MARRIAGE, wherever it is today, is set apart for the Glory of something so much bigger than your pleasure or feelings here on this earth.
Read that again.
YOUR MARRIAGE IS SET APART FOR SOMETHING SO MUCH BIGGER THAN YOUR FEELINGS.
Father, in Jesus name we come before You and ask You to be present in our marriage. We lay aside the lies we have believed about each other, the hurts that we’ve allowed to manifest and held higher than the call and purpose You have for our marriage. Your word says that love covers all wrongs (Psalm 10:12) so, Father, if there is anything I am holding against my spouse, or myself, I ask that You would remind me of the endless forgiveness that You died to give me and help me extend that to my spouse. I ask, God, that You would soften and strengthen our marriage and restore it to a safe place, where we may find rest together in You. As we lean not on our own understanding, we concentrate our marriage to You, as an avenue to lead others into the lifegiving presence of the one True Love. Thank You, Father, that Your mercies are new every morning, and that You can rebuild in an instant, what the enemy took years to devour. Thank You that I will love my spouse selflessly, all the days of my life, and in making this commitment before You, I not only honor my spouse but You as well. In Jesus Name, Amen.
Hope for the Hurting Wife (book) (Rebekkah Hallberg)
The Power of Prayer to Change Your Marriage (book) (Stormie Omartian)
How God Restored our Marriage (video) (Pastor Jeremy Foster & Jennifer Foster of Hope City Church)
We’re Matt and Dayna. Life Enthusiasts in the pursuit of a life enriched in God’s sustaining grace, empowering others to pursue the same. Two very imperfect people who wake up with bad breath, have days (sometimes weeks) of losing our patience, modeling to the world, each other, and our children, a life that points to Christ through our imperfection.
Most days you can find us chasing after our little heartbeats, Luella and Chase (4&2) This dynamic duo plays a big part in the heart behind The Pause Pursuit; a ministry empowering couples and families to slow down to pursue God and each other. In a media-saturated world, the comparison game is real, but so is real life. The Pause Pursuit is a safe place that combines the two. Where real life meets the sustaining power and pursuit of a real Jesus.
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