Unqualified | Wrestling With the Gap Between Who You Are and Who God Says You Are Meant to Be
Have you ever felt unqualified? At work? As a parent? Speaking in front of others? Starting a new ministry? 🙂
I constantly feel unqualified. I’m not really the BEST at anything I do. Whether it’s public speaking or writing or coding or playing sports or even just having everyday conversations with friends, I’m not the best at any of them.
You see, I’m a big-time do-it-yourselfer. I’ve taught myself the majority of things I do/know. I figure things out as I go and/or when needed. I haven’t really honed in on just one thing, but rather, I am constantly learning new things. I’m always growing. I think it’s crucial that I remain teachable forever. This makes me versatile and keeps life interesting, but it also has resulted in my focus being split across many different things and never given me the chance to master just one thing.
Chances are we have all secretly fought feelings of inadequacy, insufficiency, and incompetence. At one time or another, we’ve probably wondered whether we really measure up. We’ve feared we are not “enough”—whatever that means in our particular situations.
There’s so much in this world that can make us feel unqualified.
Not getting the promotion.
Losing a job.
Comparing ourselves to others.
The funny thing is, God’s calling on our life is often bigger than what we feel qualified for.
If you’re anything like me, you’re pretty hard on yourself. My shortcomings and failures are constantly rattling around in my head. I know my identity is SUPPOSED to come from Christ and Him alone, but man, it’s so much easier said than done sometimes, isn’t it?!?
I recently read through an appropriately named book, “Unqualified” by Steven Furtick, and it was incredible to me how much I could relate to so much of it! Here are some of my takeaways:
Culture tells us we must fix our failures and hide our shortcomings. And that the secret to success is to appear as flawless as possible. But God’s qualifying system is much different! God created us to be great, but to become who He has called us to be, we must embrace who we are right now; shortcomings and all.
Think about all the great men and women in the Bible. They were all unqualified. God tends to pick people who others have turned away or passed over.
Even outside of Scripture, just in our recent history, you see people like Abraham Lincoln, Walt Disney, and Bill Gates. All of these guys dropped out of school, yet were extremely successful.
How can we possibly determine who is qualified or not with our worldly standards? I don’t think we can! I think culture tries to and I think it’s an easy trap to fall into and believe, but ultimately, God is the only one who can determine that.
It’s not about my competency or even my character that qualifies me. Sure, that may be what lands me a job or gets me accepted into college, but when it comes to God’s calling on my life, I have to find a way to see myself how He sees me.
As long as I continue looking at my weaknesses as something that I just need to try harder to fix before I can be qualified, I will only make myself feel even more unqualified as I realize that I can’t fully fix myself.
This cycle will continue until I shift my thinking.
Are you overestimating your shortcomings and underestimating your gifts?
God can’t bless who you pretend to be.
“It is not that we think we are qualified to do anything on our own. Our qualification comes from God. He has enabled us to be ministers of His new covenant.”
–2 Corinthians 3:5-6 NLT
God calls me. God equips me. God empowers me. And God opens the doors for me. Once I truly grasp that, my qualifications, or lack thereof, become pretty irrelevant.
Stepping into the calling God has for you, has nothing to do with who you are or what you can do, but rather who God is and what He will do through you (if you’ll just let Him)!
Regardless of why we feel unqualified, the point here is that it doesn’t matter! In my lack, God prevails. He shines. He gets the glory.
Being unqualified results in two things; it allows you to trust God, and it allows your character to either keep you in that room or get you dismissed from the room.
God chooses those in whom He can develop a strong root system. It‘s actually to His advantage to choose those who don‘t feel qualified for the job because they are less likely to think they can rely on themselves to make anything happen.
My can-do attitude and figure-it-out personality sometimes get in the way of what God calls me to. I often struggle to let God fully use me.
It’s not that I don’t trust Him, it’s that I don’t trust myself. I feel unqualified. I feel like I have to figure it all out before I can do it. While preparation, practice, and hard work are always important and necessary, I have a tendency to do it all in my own strength rather than praying and letting God use me how He wants to.
We must remind ourselves (constantly, in my case) that God wants to use us as we are. We don’t have to and shouldn’t be trying to do it in our strength.
Remember, dear brothers and sisters, that few of you were wise in the world’s eyes or powerful or wealthy when God called you. Instead, God chose things the world considers foolish in order to shame those who think they are wise. And he chose things that are powerless to shame those who are powerful.
–1 Corinthians 1:26-27
Also, for those who missed it, my last post closely relates to this one. Even if you feel unqualified or question your ability to make an impact, remember that “Your Story Can Impact Someone”. We are all different and how you live, what you do, and how you speak may be the exact things that someone out there needs. Letting God use you as you are, may be the only way someone out there will finally get the breakthrough and revelation that they need!
God is calling every one of us to something. God wants to use you for something at some capacity. Take the step. Have the faith. Rely on Him.
We’re Matt and Dayna. Life Enthusiasts in the pursuit of a life enriched in God’s sustaining grace, empowering others to pursue the same. Two very imperfect people who wake up with bad breath, have days (sometimes weeks) of losing our patience, modeling to the world, each other, and our children, a life that points to Christ through our imperfection.
Most days you can find us chasing after our little heartbeats, Luella and Chase (4&2) This dynamic duo plays a big part in the heart behind The Pause Pursuit; a ministry empowering couples and families to slow down to pursue God and each other. In a media-saturated world, the comparison game is real, but so is real life. The Pause Pursuit is a safe place that combines the two. Where real life meets the sustaining power and pursuit of a real Jesus.
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